From the moment those double lines show up on the pregnancy test, we start planning. Just 9 months until your lives are changed forever, and you’re graced with a little mini you. 9 months until you’re responsible for a whole tiny human.
I was over the moon from the moment we found out we were having baby D, but I was also terrified. How could I be responsible for a human life? An entire person?!
There was so much to learn. So many books read, so many apps and websites I signed up to, to try and prepare me for what was to come. People offer out so much advice to help, but unfortunately with me, it went in one ear and out the other.
I invited other parents to share the things that they wish they knew, before having their babies.
Take a look at what they said below:
“The pushing part isn’t the bit that hurts the most… It’s the contractions leading up to it that really hurt. When they tell you to start pushing, it’s almost a relief to be able to use the contraction to push your little one out.”
– Laura, at Dear Bear and Beany.
“I wish I knew that the baby couldn’t care less whether I have a top of the range changing table (which became a clothes dumping ground), a nappy bin (a regular bin works too you know), 100 different bibs (you pick 3 and rotate), baby shoes (…I won’t state the obvious) and fancy baby food making gadgets (my hand-held blender does the same job)!”
– Gina, at Skint Momma.
“I wished that I knew that, Pethadine makes babies that are going to be breastfed very hard to feed for the first 3 days as it stays in their system and effects them latching on”.
“Poo comes out in the rain – despite having an expensive washing machine, the best thing I’ve found to get poo out of muslins and clothes is to leave them out in the rain- I think it’s the combination of UV light and volume of water that does it!
– Heledd, at Yummy Blogger.
“How quick they grow!!! To enjoy every precious second of that tiny little bubba..even the colic screams!!”
“I wish I knew more about pushchairs. I spent so much money on a pushchair that didn’t suit my lifestyle as it was so big and bulky and could barely fit on a bus. I then replaced it with a stroller to realise my baby was too small for one.”
– Carly, at Mummy and the Chunks.
“Instead of not being able to do things when you have a child, you get to experience more things (albeit maybe different things). I always wonder when people talk about wishing they had travelled before babies, we have actually visited more things with children than we would do without. Having a family is brilliant!”
– Helen, at Casa Costello.
“People kept telling me how the sleepless nights would be a shock when baby arrived… Nobody told me that nearly 2 years on I would still feel exhausted!!!”
– Heledd, at Yummy Blogger.
“I wish I knew in advance how messy babies and kids were! From the day they’re born, you become a human towel. Vomit down the back and wee all over you during nappy changes. Baby food thrown at you during weaning. Grubby hands wiped down you as toddlers. There’s times when I’m genuinely scared to wear smart clothes!”
– Alex, at Random Geeky Dad.
“Breastfeeding hurts, all the books and even the lactation specialists say that if you are breastfeeding correctly it doesn’t hurt. Lucas latched on and fed well and it still hurt, perseverance and Lansinoh did the trick until it stopped hurting and was well worth breaking through the pain barrier.”
– Jenni, at Chilling with Lucas.
“How hard it would be to just pop to the shop or just pop anywhere!”
– Amy, at The Smallest of Things.
“Not to bother with actual clothes for babies until around 6 months, as soon as you pop on the tights, vest and dress combo they will only puke or poo.”
– Clare, at Emmy’s Mummy.
“I wish I had known more about colic and how to help soothe it. I had heard the word thrown around before but dismissed it and didn’t think it would apply to me. It was a horrible time and wish I had been more prepared!”
– Amy, at This Little Life.
“I wish I knew about colic – and specifically just how difficult it was going to be, and how helpless I would end up feeling because nothing I did helped soothe my baby. Also, when people tell you that colic only lasts 3 months…. all lies.”
– Cat, at Pushing the Moon.
“When you have a baby so long she goes straight into 0-3 make sure you check the baby bag you lovingly packed weeks in advance (months maybe!!), doesn’t just contain beautiful tiny newborn clothes or you may find yourself in a extra large Asda miles from home dealing with a major major poo-splosion & a long queue forming outside the only baby change waiting for you.”
– Louise, at Pink Pear Bear.
“I wish I REALLY understood that birth plans are not really plans and knew about different ways to birth. This would have enabled me to consider what I would prefer in different scenarios instead of having to make life changing decisions during very difficult moments.”
– Mo, at Adventures of a Novice Mum.
“I wished I was prepared for how much pain I would be in after birth. No one tells you about that part and I had no idea it would be so painful for me.”
“I wish I’d known not to doubt my instincts. I did know best for me and my baby and everything was going to be OK”
– Laura, at Wafflemama.
“I wish I had known that all the horror stories aren’t always true and actually having a newborn can be a wonderful experience. I would have been able to enjoy it more, without worrying if I was doing it right!”
– Lucy, at The Parent Game.
“Sleep. A full nights sleep. Instead of telling mum’s and dads to make the most of sleep before the baby comes, tell them to instead set their alarms to go off every 3 hours at a ridiculous volume.”
– Becca, at Mrs Flams.
“You buy the best you can afford to turn your little one’s toy box into an all singing, all dancing, battery guzzling, award winning pre-school paradise. Your baby prefers to play with the remote control and an empty crisp packet.”
– Jessica, at Babi a Fi.
” How important it is to look after yourself. If you burn out everyone else struggles too. ;) still learning this one.”
– Alexandra, at I’m Every Mum.
“I wish someone had told me – identical twins really can happen to you even when there’s no twins in the family and that make you very -very- grey!! (But are bloody ace!!)”
– Beth, at Twinderelmo.
“That one spare outfit for a day trip is never enough”.
” I wish someone had told us that if you had a baby boy that you should point his *ahem* downwards when changing his nappy! We found out the difficult way ;)”
– Laura, at Mummy Lala.
“How little I’d care about make up, getting my hair done or even wearing clean clothes in the early days!”
– Cat, at Rock and Roll Pussycat.
“That mummy guilt is very real and you will feel guilty for the most irrational things but it’s just another sign of how much you love them!”
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Hope you enjoyed :)